All Entries in the "Relationships" Category

How To Get A New Girlfriend (aka, How To Deal With A Break-Up)

It was basically one year ago today that I suffered the worst break-up of my life. I cannot compare it to anything else I’ve experienced in my life frankly.

It also involved a devastating betrayal (hard to say, harder to experience).

I want to tell you a little bit about this, AND to share the ways I got through it.

Why YOU Should Be Saying “Lets Just Be Friends”

It seems completely, totally, absolutely clear to me now…the single thing most important in finding a lasting, healthy relationship is friendship.

How to get a girlfriend starts with a friendship. I am single now, and at times I find myself trying on the old PUA thinking. It usually begins when I see an attractive woman, and I feel that chemical release of physical/sexual interest. Of course, this is relatively meaningless in the big picture - as I’ve learned.

Rebound=Repair, or Why You Shouldn’t Jump From One Relationship To Another

I broke up with my girlfriend.

It’s been rough.

Part of the deal in any break-up is the inevitable need to rebound. Or, to get someone else as soon as possible. Or, to secure validation (now lost) from a new person so I can stop the pain.

Rebounds happen ALL THE TIME. In fact, for most people, it’s a normal occurrence. The less secure, the lower the self-esteem, the more likely to jump from a broken, ended relationship to another one…which will inevitably end badly - as it was constructed on broken ground.

It makes sense, doesn’t it? So, I no longer call them “rebounds” I call them “repairs”.

Dr. Stephen Nash, Dating Coach: Notes From My 1-on-1 Work With Guys

Hey man -

I’ve recently had a rush of 1-on-1 coaching work here and it occurred to me to write a little bit about my observations of the common challenges I see guys facing (long sentences anyone?).

I guess it’s the nature of how I advertise my social coaching as not being an in-field “pick-up artist” training course that yields me less students than say some other company, BUT I also usually get very cool, more normal guys too.

Finding The “Right” Women For You (aka, not for me…)

This is a how to get a girl friend mailbag question…(yes, I do respond to emails - so, feel free to send man!)
Finding the right kind of women “for me” is everyone’s challenge. I have found though that there are very solid techniques to apply to my lifestyle which can help this dilemma. [...]

Getting That “One Special Girl” - Part II

I said Wednesday…and I apologize.
This fine machine that I work with here at How To Get A Girlfriend headquarters..aka, this computer has been in “the shop” since Tuesday afternoon.
Something about a power supply.
So, I’m late.
But better late than never, right?
Here’s Part II, where I outline some answers to this troubling phenomenon of “one-itis” or becoming [...]

Getting That “One Special Girl” - Part I

Hey -
One thing I did not cover in my ebook, “How To Get A Girlfriend” was what to do in that special circumstance where you get hung up on her to the point where you’re obsessed, a bit unfocused, and perhaps even slightly (or more) crazy.
I want to tell you a brief story now - [...]

Bachelor To Boyfriend…Something To Think About During “March Madness”

Since the release of the Third Edition of How To Get A Girlfriend, I’ve been asked to do a number of interviews.
This question comes to me at a time when my life is in full-throttle, and my relationship is as strong as ever. I have to say, I’ve never been happier or more in love [...]

My Mousepad…And Other Musings From My Desk

My girlfriend’s mother gave me a personalized mousepad for Christmas…with our pic on it.
Last year, we went to a prom-style dance here in NYC for her school, and we had someone snap a digi-pic of us. So, her mom got the file and somehow got it printed on a mousepad.
She also made a scrapbook [...]

Mailbag: One-itis, Toxic Women & The Genesis of “The Game”

Happy New Year!
This post could be called: the opposite of How To Get A Girlfriend. Today I want to discuss a phenomenon in the dating world called “one-itis”.
Ever hear of it?
Or, worse yet - ever experience it?? Ugh, I hope not man.
This is where you, the guy, become so obsessed with a woman [...]

How To Get A Girlfriend - A Primer

I worked with two clients recently who both asked me to summarize how it is that I help guys with this age-old question: How To Get A Girlfriend.
I realized this was such a clear request that I have handled in my ebook, but I thought it might be useful to briefly cover this in [...]

Tricky & Subtle - Mastering Long-Term Attraction…

Hey -
Since the release of the Third Edition of How To Get A Girlfriend, I’ve been asked to do a number of interviews.
This question comes to me at a time when my life is in full-throttle, and my relationship is as strong as ever. I have to say, I’ve never been happier or more in [...]