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Talking “Fearless” with Nick Sparks (The Social Man)

I caught up with Nick Sparks of The Social Man yesterday to talk about his newest invention: “Fearless”. We talk about “fear”, what it is, how it manifests in men and how it repulses women. Then, Nick offers some killer tips on reversing the destructive nature of fear, and – how EASY it is to [...]

NYC Dating Coach: Themes I’ve Noticed…

As a dating coach here in NYC, you’d likely think that most of the guys I work with are very different, diverse, experiencing very different challenges vis-a-vis women and dating. If that’s what you think, you’d be wrong…very very wrong.

It’s truly amazing how each of the guys who come to me tend to struggle with the exact same things. And, very regularly, the solutions to what they struggle with are usually the same as well. It has caused me to think that there is a true epidemic of fear and insecurity within our male population, which is usually the root cause of his struggles with women.

Are You A Force, Or A Consequence?

Big question today.

People are either one, or the other. Are you one who initiates, begins, imposes, imagines, creates, acts, DOES?

Or, are you one who responds, reacts, cowers, shifts, pulls back, refrains, regrets or puts off?

One Good Dating Tip: Enlist A BFFF

By now you should know that planning parties, events and outings is the BEST way to meet women (didn’t know that? Read “How To Get A Girlfriend” ). For the *BEST* results you need to enlist a partner in “social” crime…

Your BFFF

Your BFFF=Best Female Friend…”Forever” (sorry, had to).

And The Winners Are…

First, let me thank the guys who sincerely participated in this month’s Carpe Diem contest.

I was REALLY digging the posts, and had a blast following the participants progress across a variety of spectrums.

And the winners are…

One Good Dating Tip: Climb Mt. Kilimanjaro

An actual question I received from a client not too long ago (paraphrased):

“Stephen –
I have to make a decision. I’ve saved around $3500 and wonder if it would be better to either take a seduction training course, or to travel to Kenya with a group and climb Mt. Kilimanjaro. What do you think?”

Do you even need to read on to know my answer?

One Good Dating Tip: Far & Away, The BEST Way To Meet A Woman

Everything I can teach you about meeting and dating women is summed up in one magical moment.

Should this happen to you, as it has happened to me, you’ll know you have travelled a great distance from frustration to success.

“This Is Stephen, That Guy I Was Telling You About”

One Good Dating Tip: Build A Social Lifestyle

Do you do things alone?

Do you spend a lot of time at home?

Do you have 3 friends who could go with you – TONIGHT – to the Laker game; U2 concert; Yankee game; Saints game?

One Good Dating Tip: Stop Being Boring

You’re Boring.

There, I said it.

It’s the elephant in the living room, the piece of news your parents are too scared to pass on, and something that the women you like know, but won’t tell you…

You’re boring.

April Carpe Diem Contest: Face Your Fear, Change Your Life, Win An iPad

I’m going to bribe you to risk.

I’m going to reward you for taking a leap of faith.

I’m going to honor you for facing your fear.

Here’s the deal: I will send you Apple’s newest, coolest product – the iPad (the 16GB version) – to your front door if you are willing to face your fear, lean into your comfort zone and expand your life.

The Feminism Problem (Part II)

If Part I of this series of articles on Feminism focused on the problem, this article will focus on the solution. (If you haven’t read part I, click the link above and read it. Do not read Part II unless you have read Part I).

In fact, this series could perhaps be titled a bit better, as:

• The Masculine Problem
• The Decline of Masculinity
• How To Be A Man

Planning A Dinner Party? GET THIS BOOK

Those of you who have worked with me, or attended the Natural Attraction Coaching Sessions last winter, know the value I place on DINNER PARTIES. Dinner Parties are a great way to galvanize your social circle, establish yourself as a ‘go 2 guy’ in the group, and to meet new, attractive women…all in your own home.

In other words – it’s a no brainer. If you aren’t throwing dinner parties, then you don’t yet get the idea of leverage, which is the essential ingredient to making your social life EASY and SUCCESSFUL.