All Entries in the "Inner Game" Category

The Feminism Problem (Part III): Stop Objectifying Women

Masculinism. Ever hear of it? There, in fact, IS a ‘movement’ of sorts for men…but it is largely intellectual and ineffectual. It grew as a response to the feminism movement, but has gone mostly nowhere in impacting men’s lives. Mostly, there is the appropriate advocacy of men’s rights via the judicial system. But, what we’re discussing here in this series is something much different.

Lets talk about stopping “objectifying” women and how it is the first phase of real development for men.

The Feminism Problem (Part I)

I cannot help but notice a startling consequence that seems to occur in intimate relationships between men and women. Since the rise of feminism, the divorce rate has dramatically increased and men are quietly developing an unhealthy anger towards women, a resentment at a new disenfranchisement - the unfairness and inequality in the cultural, social and dating circles which is profoundly stacked against men. We are now seeing a growing circus of men acting this anger out in horribly destructive ways with potentially devastating consequences.

My thesis is: Feminism, and the subsequent assertiveness of women, has led to a profound polarity shift between men and women, and has led to an unhealthy inequality in dating and relationships.

Guest Post: Dan Donche on The Rules Of Respect (VERY Good Stuff)

I’ve recently become acquainted with Dan Donche (www.innerbadass.com) and have found a kindred spirit in his writing and philosophies. So, I thought to invite him to write an article for the how to get a girlfriend blog here.

He’s contributed some AWESOME thoughts on respect, and how to build it as a man. Some of it is counter-intuitive, which I love. A lot of things that we feel we need/want must be gained indirectly - like respect, women, meaning, etc.

Read on…

Alpha Males, Validation, 2 Skills & What Is Actually Possible For You

In my experience, you cannot simply become an alpha male. But, what you CAN do is learn certain dominant, assertive skills which help you be more successful with dating and women.

Let’s face it - passive, insecure men are unattractive. So, learning how to be comfortable with asserting yourself is pretty important.

Me? I am no alpha male. But, I have learned how to go for what I want anyway.

Podcast - The 12 Steps For Dating Success in 2009

If “getting better with women”, or something like that, is on your list of resolutions for 2009…you’ve gotta listen to my latest podcast:

How To Get A Girlfriend Podcast

In this audio, I go through 2009 - month-by-month - and talk about ONE skill you can focus on for that month alone. “Getting better with women” is way too vague and impossible, whereas learning specific skills month by month is ACTUALLY doable.

How To Actually “Change” And Why Most Of You Can’t

Strong words, I know.
Most of you will not change at all this year, in fact, you will DEvolve grooving more and more negative habits and pulling further and further away from your goals in life.
If you’ve made a New Year’s Resolution list, it is likely you’ve already broken many of them, if not all of [...]

The Next Great Catch Word…”Placating”

My new favorite word is “placating”. To me, it says it all…

I was working with a client this weekend, and he used it to describe himself.

Now, being a teacher here, I am always seeking a word (or words) that help me get my message across - and now, I’ve got a really good one.

Inner Game, Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self Image &….Dating

Bet that guy never worried about confidence (see right).

Bet he never contemplated getting help with his inner game…;-)

Nowadays though, it is uncommon to find any guy who has some challenge or issue with his inner game, his internal self-image.

It’s probably linked in some way to our culture and society. And marketers prey upon it by offering you blue pills or red pills, to step out of the matrix and somehow find yourself suddenly changed and empowered.

Dr. Stephen Nash, Dating Coach: Notes From My 1-on-1 Work With Guys

Hey man -

I’ve recently had a rush of 1-on-1 coaching work here and it occurred to me to write a little bit about my observations of the common challenges I see guys facing (long sentences anyone?).

I guess it’s the nature of how I advertise my social coaching as not being an in-field “pick-up artist” training course that yields me less students than say some other company, BUT I also usually get very cool, more normal guys too.

How To Flat-Out MASTER Your “Inner Game”…

Want to see the funniest PUA video I’ve ever seen?
This is something I made with my friends DJ & Christian…and as you’ll see, it’s a damn riot (if I do say so myself).
Check-it out here:
www.man-360.com
Oh, and bring a grain of salt or too along bro.
Have an awesome Monday.
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The “Get Laid For Life” Contest!

Did you watch the whole thing?
So, for your convenience, here are the 11 Rules/Tenets of the “Natural” & I need a 12th.
1) No Sarging - I do what I want, and meet women on the way;
2) I am open to trying and exploring new and interesting things always leaning into my “comfort zone”;
3) If I [...]

The Natural Pickup Revolution - The “Code” Of The Natural

Hey man -
I wondered if you, like me, have noticed the mini-revolution happening away from scripts and routines in the community? Pretty cool, if you ask me.
Although I do teach routines to guys, as training wheels for “getting started”, if you want to know how to get girls…and how to get LOTS of girls [...]