How To Pick Up Women

In my article How To Pick Up Girls, I outline the 3 steps to picking-up a woman, in any scenario, at any time.

But, as with most social topics, there is always more to say…

In the pick-up artist community, there is a great deal of focus on “sarging”…between you and me, it’s a really toxic, lame idea.

“Sarging” is when you head out on a regular basis, with the sole intention of picking-up girls. That’s it. You have no other aim and purpose to your outing.

Sarging is for losers. Always have another reason to be out in the world. If picking-up women is your number one reason to be out, you are doing this wrong.

How To Pick Up Women - My Vision

It happens through lifestyle. It happens through you doing what you want, how you want, and with whom you want.

Want to meet tons of cool women who are right for you?

Start doing the things you really want to do, and simply meet the other people who are there doing it with you.

This is a website designed to help you improve your skills with women and dating yes, and learning how to pick up women is clearly an important aspect of that.

But, learning the real skills in getting better with women really requires you to become better AT LIFE.

The quality of your dating life is directly related to the quality of your REAL LIFE.

So, meeting women is all about being in the world in a way that feels TRUE to you.

How To Pick Up Women - The Vibe

A guy who is truly living his own life, who lives his life as a true individual, will own the proper vibe when he approaches a woman. He’ll be attractive to her.

A guy who’s sole aim and purpose in life is to get good at “pick up”, will approach women off balance. We call this being “needy” or seeking validation.

A lot of guys are like this. They have had a meager amount of success over the years with women, and once they begin to approach women, learn how to talk to women, and get better at meeting women, but they are still missing that final important piece - they haven’t yet mastered the vibe of being truly attractive to women.

The simple way you stop seeking validation from women is to “get” a concept I call autonomy.

You’re in charge.
You are self-governed.
You keep your own counsel, and are self-directed.

Now, imagine THAT guy is out grabbing lunch (for example). He sees a cute girl in line, and chats her up. His vibe is 100% on balance, he’s fully self-governed and self-directed.

That’s the guy that gets the girl. She realizes, intuitively, that he’s a guy who’s different, and who’s an individual. He’s not like the average guy. She can tell, immediately, that he’s someone to pay attention to…she’s ATTRACTED to him naturally.

How To Pick Up Women - What To Say

“OK Stephen. I hear ya on the lifestyle stuff. Sure, makes sense. But, what the heck do I say to her?”

It’s THE question on most guy’s minds once they start getting interested in meeting women.

I coach guys on 4 distinctly different skills/techniques that are field-tested and ready for your use.

I’ll give you one of those right now.

“Excuse me, but I noticed you from across the restaurant, and had to risk total embarrassment to meet you. My name is Stephen”

That’s the direct approach man. If you really want to learn how to pick up women…try that, if only just once. If you do it, I promise you, you will grow BALLS.

If you want to learn what to say next…then sign-up for my master class below. I’ll teach you 10 more wildly effective skills for how to pick up women.

Thanks for stopping by man!

Stephen