Comments on: One Good Dating Tip: When To Say “Can I Buy You A Drink?”

By: LOALoveCoach

LOALoveCoach — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 18:38:48 +0000

Hi Stephen,

Thanks for your tips. I will definitely send my shy guys your way…

Best to you,
Catherine

By: Stephen Nash

Stephen Nash — Fri, 22 Apr 2011 16:34:48 +0000

It’s all in the tone/delivery. You can say ANYTHING if it’s accompanied with the proper, slightly sarcastic, tone. Also, if you offer something from a place of real power, it never comes across as supplicative – hard to imagine I’m sure if one has forever lacked self-esteem.

But, hey, you got a link out of it right Mike?

By: Mike @ As Seen on TV

Mike @ As Seen on TV — Fri, 22 Apr 2011 15:46:41 +0000

You should never buy a girl a drink unless it’s guaranteed that she’s attracted to you already. I think it means desperation and that you want something in return. Not crazy about the gucci bag opener.. when are guys interested in handbags, that’s just as lame as asking if she wants a drink.

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 07 Oct 2010 07:25:29 +0000

Good post. Those simple opening lines are great, or even just introducing yourself works great too. I had to laugh about the purse comment. If a guy noticed and then commented on my purse, I wouldn’t be fond of that. If it weren’t a “Gucci” for instance, I would think he’s being sarcastic and that wouldn’t rub off too well. Or I’d think he was high maintenance which isn’t my thing. And I never smile or even make eye contact with guys, they pretty much have to approach me cold turkey. That’s just me. My friends do it differently though. lol. So imagine how many guys I’ve missed out on..

By: Yummy Stale Bread

Yummy Stale Bread — Sun, 30 May 2010 13:55:41 +0000

An E/S opener is completely unnecessary. If the woman “smiles at you from across the room . . . [and] [s]he’s practically SCREAMING for you to come and talk to her” then that has turned from a cold approach into a warm approach. Walk directly up to her and introduce yourself. Sure you can transition into situational conversation but there is absolutely no need to open with it.