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One Good Dating Tip: Her “Approach Me” Signals

Most women will not approach you. You “get” that, right?

But, they WILL give you signals, or “indicators” of interest. In this day and age it is somewhat taboo for a woman to overtly indicate her interest to a man. However, there are ‘ways’ she can signal you to approach her.

Some of these are obvious, and some are very subtle. But all should be known by a guy who is looking to meet more women.

One caveat: if a woman does NOT provide you with one of these, it doesn’t now mean you have an excuse NOT to approach her (I know all of the loopholes).

My list (Got your own?  Please add in the comments below):

  • Looks at you a bit longer than is “usual”
  • Looks back to you more than once – the classic “double-take”
  • Smiles at you (duh)
  • Goes out of her way for you to notice her (walks past your table, when there are more direct ways to where she is going)
  • Within her locale, shifts her body language to be more open to you
  • If adjacent, raises her voice so that you can hear her
  • Accidentally “bumps” into you
  • Drops something near you hoping you will pick it up
  • Pushes her hair out of the way, so that you can see more clearly her face
  • Subtly allows you to see more clearly what she is going; so, if she is reading, she will be sure you can see the book/magazine giving you an opening (subtle, but true)
  • Sits or stands near you, but with her back directly to you. If you move, she moves too
  • Her feet and hips point towards you, but her shoulders and head don’t.
  • Her lips swell, or become flushed. Her cheeks or neck might change color too
  • Her pupils dilate when she looks at you
  • She, ‘accidentally’, separates herself from her group
  • She sees you, then adjusts her clothes

If she goes out of her way – in subtle and not so subtle ways – to get you to notice her, then guess what?

She wants you to notice her.

If you notice any of the above, she is probably interested. But, there is only one way to find out and that is to approach her.

Need help with that?  Read my How To Pick Up Women article.

Enjoy!  Oh, and remember, feel free to add more below…

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About the Author: Stephen Nash is the founder of Cutting Edge Image Consulting. He is an Original Pick-up Artist and a well documented expert. Stephen has worked with thousands of clients, and is the author of the best-selling How To Get a Girlfriend.

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  1. Mike @ As Seen on TV | May 30, 2010 | Reply

    True, she might be interested in you or just be a big flirt craving for attention. I think some of those things might be a little too hard to notice like pupils dilate or lips swell .. you have amazing observation skills and eyesight to notice these. Great tips!

  2. Chase Chandler, The Alpha Male | Jul 8, 2010 | Reply

    These are great signs and this is a good article because it encourages us guys to Take Action! Remember, you gotta be in it to win it!

  3. Lennie Rosa | Mar 21, 2011 | Reply

    Steve, you hit every nail on the head – except the belladonna effect (this is so subtle no guy is going to notice it from across the room and chances are you are in a dark environment like a restaurant which will cause her pupils ro dilate anyway) and the swollen lips… Unless she is using collagen, lip venom lipgloss which kind of causes an allergic reaction to swell lips or there are a lot of bees around and she’s wearing honey for lip gloss chance are the swelling will not be noticeable. All other tips are valid. And yes, gentlemen, women’s lib failed miserably and confused you all, but we do still feel that it is proper etiquette for a man to approach a woman. If the clues steve listed arent enough for you to get the message, what do we have to do? Take our clothes off and jump you? As much as you’d all like that fantasy, it’s not going to happen unless you’re in a strip club. Even then there are limitations. So pay attention and don’t be afraid to approach a woman.

  4. Marco Lee | May 20, 2011 | Reply

    Would a girl stepping on your foot an invitation or signal? I think the “eyes dilating” sign should be somehow taken down a little. With a guy like me who’s not 20/20 it’s difficult to spot one unless we’re really that physically close to each other. :)

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