One Good Dating Tip: Sarging Is For Losers

A few years ago I produced a product called “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up”, where I break down the SKILLS needed to naturally attract women (sans gimmickry and BS).  So, everything from approaching a woman, flirting with her, connecting with her, calling her, dating her, escalating with her, going for the kiss etc.  Everything you need to NATURALLY be successful with women and dating is in there.

Prior to the launch, I did a webinar where I broke down “The Code of the Natural”. 

Now, calling any list a true “code” is a bit audacious, I agree.  But, the first point on the list drew a LOT of ire of a number of callers, which was:

“No Sarging”

What’s “sarging” (you might ask)?  Be glad you don’t know.  Basically, it’s where an aspiring or “good” PUA (pick-up artist) goes out on the town prowling for women. 

Have I “sarged” before?  OOOOOOOH Yeah.  A LOT (I do speak from experience).  Back during the Project Hollywood days, we sarged DAILY.  We were all under the delusion that LOTS of practice was needed to get good at attracting women…

Since then, I’ve learned that healthy, intelligent women are not attracted to sargey-PUAs and that viewing anything as a “game” severely retards ones social skills.  Instead, focus on developing ones lifestyle and social circle while building up ones social skills is the BEST way to become successful with women.

In other words – NO SARGING, focus on growing ones lifestyle and community.  Go do the things you like to do and meet the other people there doing it with you (simple, the way I like it).

There is one exception though (and isn’t there always?).  If you are very new, or have never approached a woman before, you should do so.  Moreover, going out with friends to approach women to PRACTICE beginning a conversation is a fine idea.

Just don’t do it a lot.  Why?  Because what happened to me (and many others I’ve met) might just happen to you.

You’ll start viewing meeting women as some sort of contest or game, and not as a way to simply, naturally…

Meet women.

It happens. 

Oh, and if you’re already going down this road – stop. 

And since I alluded to it, here is “The Code of the Natural”:

1) No Sarging – I do what I want, and meet women on the way;

 

2) I am open to trying and exploring new and interesting things always leaning into my “comfort zone”;

 

3) If I see a woman I want to meet, I meet her;

 

4) I am the “Go 2 Guy” of my social circle, always knowing what’s “going on” in the community and leading my social circle into new & fascinating experiences;

 

5) The mantra of my social circle – “Invite Someone That No One Else Knows”;

 

6) I am always leading/screening as I have standards for whom I will date and who gets “in” my social circle;

 

7) I never ask questions of a woman until she asks them of me FIRST;

 

A First date – is always into my world…;

 

9) I never end a date with a kiss. If I want to kiss a woman, I structure a time for the middle of the date. Rules like this are made to be broken;

 

10) I am always a gentleman, and I treat people with respect (and expect my friends & women to do so too);

 

11) I am never average, I am never ordinary.

 

12) When in doubt, always say “yes” 

Oh, and if you’re interested in learning more about “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up” you may do so right here:

The Natural Art of the Pick-Up

And remember…No Sarging.  If you have no better reason to be ‘there’, then you need to get a life which will give you that reason.

Disagree?  Pick a fight with me below…I take on all comers.

Have an awesome weekend.

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