–He is far more at ease with himself in a variety of social situations.

–He takes responsibility for his life, both the good aspects of it and that which he needs to work on. This involves action.

–His life is now filled with meaningful goals and pursuits. He has a mission bigger than getting laid.

–He handles stressful situations far more calmly than before.

–He goes for what he wants in life.

–And yes, he knows how to flirt, tell stories, and is able to read a woman’s signs, has the outer-game social skills.

–He doesn’t supplicate or give his power away to anyone. Including a girl he is attracted to.

I’m not all the way there yet, but I am working on it.

Also, at a certain point (past all the beginner stuff) it DOES become all inner-game – but only once a guy has the other stuff ‘down’. He’ll eventually find himself left with…himself.

The problems come when guys don’t graduate onto the big picture, when they don’t see how these snippets of behavior they’ve learned fit into (or don’t) the context of a mature masculinity, and what women really crave in a man. So while we all have to start somewhere, we eventually need to graduate and move on.

By the way guys, if something has become “overdone” to the point where “women see through it”, then it is a sign that it never really was the answer. I mean, think about it: Would any of us object if seemingly every woman around us now has both supermodel looks and a friendly, giving, genuine personality to go with that?

I just want to comment on this part of the article:

“Back when I was reading dating advice, I remember someone asking a question from the cocky/funny guru regarding its usage. He asked, “I used some lines to tease her. She was eating it up and having a good time. At what point should I stop?”

“The writer of cocky/funny manifesto replied back, “What is wrong with you? What would you ever stop busting her balls? That’s what has gotten you thus far. Why would you ever stop now?”
That, right there, is perhaps one of the single worst pieces of advice ever written on dating. After incessantly “Busting her balls” on a date, I once had a woman tell me that she wasn’t enjoying our interaction and that she wanted to go home. It was a bit disturbing to me, since I was following the cocky/funny motto and berating her nonstop. Hey, by all accounts she should have been all over me. With that much cocky/funny, she should have been proposing marriage to me. I guess she just didn’t like being picked on by some guy who had asked her out on a date.”

You’re saying David D gave him really bad dating advice? All he was saying was why would u stop doing what works and got her attracted to u in the first place! The differences there was that he said she was “eating it up and having a good time”
Where as the girl u did it on wasnt enjoying the interaction and “wanted to go home”

I think alot of this is just plain common sense. Its obvious u wouldnt use c/f with every single thing that comes out of your mouth. That’d be just stupid. Like anything in life, balance is key. I mean do that many guys have no common sense and are that socially unintelligent and uncalibrated?

Also this:

“It’s not that the people promoting cocky/funny manifesto necessarily had bad intentions or meant to dupe or deceive you. It’s just that they did not know any better themselves. They were not touting advice because they had discovered something that worked for them. Rather, they were making observations of other people that had a working model, but the observers never understood the nuts and bolts of it. They didn’t understand the nuances of it. On top of that, they weren’t really guys who understood dating and attraction. They were marketers.”

So hang on, we’re talking about David D here right. We all know hes the guy who promotes c/f and he’s a great marketer. But he doesnt understand dating and attraction? He wrote a whole book on attraction called ‘Attraction Isn’t A Choice’ not to mention all the other stuff he’s done. If he was a fraud he would have been outed by now. U can clearly see in his programs hes a confident and funny guy.

I’m 29 and LITERALLY every male friend I have is FULLY aware of the “seduction community”. I agree with you that most men do c/f completely wrong, but the fact is that the VAST majority of men are now using c/f, negs, etc.

It’s overdone and women can spot it a mile away.

OK, Are you a complete dumbass or you just play one on the Internet? Just for clarification.

Wait, was the cocky/funny or a neg? Well, I am sure you’ll figure it out.