The Next Great Catch Word…”Placating”

I am sick of low self-esteem, insecurity, supplication, wussy and the rest of them.

My new favorite word is “placating”. To me, it says it all…

I was working with a client this weekend, and he used it to describe himself.

Now, being a teacher here, I am always seeking a word (or words) that help me get my message across – and now, I’ve got a really good one.

Here’s the statement of the day:

You should not be placating to women.

Ha! Hows that for a revelation…

But, just try to stop…or at least, just try to stop overnight.

The guys I meet, on average, ALL placate to women. And if you don’t believe me, what if you did, and you could then also accept that you are not even AWARE of this behavior in yourself. I was shocked when I first woke up to this fact.

But here’s an even bigger question. Where ELSE do you placate? Your family? Your friends? Co-workers?

Do you placate to your own negativity: laziness, anger, jealousy etc.

I’d imagine that most of us consider someone else’s feelings before our own…and that we do it a LOT.

The guys who suck with women (that’s another favorite word – “suck”) placate to them. They are “nice”, they are “cordial”, they are “considerate”.

When I say something like:

“Dude, you need to flirt more with her, to establish more sexual tension”

He’ll say:

“I know man, I just don’t know how to do that”

Me:

“Just a lite insult and done with a smile. OR, just treat her like a little sis”

Him:

“Insult her? Dude, that’s not cool. I could never do that…”

So, instead of learning how to attract women, the guy continues being BORING with women.

But, what’s even more tragic is that most of you – not you of course, but the other guys reading this blog – think that you are being nice, when in truth you are MANIPULATING women.

Now…that just aint right. Hows that?

Well, when you are being NICE to her for the sake of PLACATING her (ie – you hope and pray that she’ll like you and how nicey nice you are), you are manipulating her. Which is exactly why women are turned off by the “nice guy” act – it’s not only boring & creepy, but its also manipulative and subversive.

Instead of challenging her – which (by the way) she WANTS you to do – you will instead agree with her, and endorse her BS. Of course, a well-worded challenge, said with strength, can build MASSIVE attraction in a woman.

Testosterone doesn’t PLACATE dude. And if you are doing it, you might be following the rules of your upbringing, but you are violating the laws of nature.

Oh, and don’t mistakenly assume that I’m endorsing you being an asshole to women – not at all. There is an obvious line that exists between being a man and a jerk.

A flirt is not an angry, demeaning insult
A challenge is not a self-righteous put-down

The guys who find this area, this middle-ground, are the ones who get the girls, and who eventually…get an awesome girlfriend.

In fact, this ground is THE destination you seek…it is the subtle terrain between being weak and placating, and asinine and angry.

Find it.

Stephen Nash

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