The Artful One-Night-Stand, taken from “The Natural Art of the Pick-Up” Ebook

Most of this material is geared to guys seeking a girlfriend, but if you’re not there yet, and you want to have sex with a woman the same night you meet her (and it’s clear she does too) then, remember this: You must venue change away from the “meet” venue, to a “connect” venue, then to the “seduction” venue. When she experiences you in another venue (in another environment) it STRENGTHENS the connection.

Suddenly, you aren’t the guy in the bar anymore. You’re the guy who took her for ice cream, the guy who knows that cool, intimate bar on that side street, the guy who showed you the amazing view of the harbor – whatever.

Also, people ARE different in different environments. So, quite naturally the connection is strengthened as you both now share a NEW context with each other and can see a new side of each other. In a way, that is exactly the point of dating: to experience a person in a new CONTEXT which will show you more about her. The effect is that it deepens the connection.

But, on an ONS, you need to build that in, using some intelligence. How to do this?

Never go from the MEET venue (the bar, for example) to the SEDUCTION venue (your apartment). Always include a CONNECT venue in between.

Here’s my structure for a One-Night-Stand:

1) MEET venue – BAR (for example).

Do E/H/C; you dig her, she digs you; you say: “you know, I need a little dessert before I turn in, want to go for an ice cream?” She agrees, you leave with her, Paris Promenade style (remember that kino technique?).

2) CONNECT venue – Dessert Spot

Here, you basically have your “first date” and establish more commonalities, but more importantly you go DEEPER into the topics you’ve earlier covered WIDELY. Also, you must “ground” yourself (we will cover this skill a bit later when we cover that “first date”). Lastly, you MUST kiss her HERE (or even, before). So, an intimate cafe is a good spot (for ice cream), or another bar (which sells ice cream, obviously). Some place cozy and more intimate.

Then you say something like: “Well, I’ve been talking all night about my dog, want to meet her quickly?” Or, a classic oversell works: “The view from my rooftop is incredible…you can see the entire city from there, including the GW bridge…and on a night as clear as this, it’s worth a quick look”.

Then, you toss in a wondrous token-resistance destroyer:

“But, you’ll only be allowed to stay 10 minutes – and I am serious about that – as I have an important meeting in the am and have to get up at 6 sharp, OK? Do, don’t get too comfortable”

3) SEDUCTION venue – your place

This brings the perfect opportunity to segue-way back to “your place” without saying it. This allows her a way to say “yes” to something other than: “want to go back to my place and have sex?” WHILE removing any resistance she may have to going by setting it up as being a “short stay”. If she says NO, then don’t push it. She will know “what’s up” if you invite her back to your apartment. If she agrees, then you know – “it’s on”.