Comments on: Natural Game: Rules 7-9 Explained In This Video http://www.datingsecretsformen.com/2008/07/25/natural-game-rules-7-9-explained-in-this-video/ NYC Dating Coach Stephen Nash's Blog Sun, 13 May 2012 18:43:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: AndyC http://www.datingsecretsformen.com/2008/07/25/natural-game-rules-7-9-explained-in-this-video/#comment-8507 AndyC Wed, 30 Jul 2008 16:54:51 +0000 http://www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com/blog/2008/07/25/natural-game-rules-7-9-explained-in-this-video/#comment-8507 I think these rules are spot-on (all of them, I mean, not just 7-9). I see this as the "real work" of pick-up. You're teaching people to drive whereas other gurus are just getting them to put fuzzy dice on their rearview mirror. I'm not sure my full point came across in that metaphor, but you get the jist of it. My one quibble would be with structuring a kiss in the middle of the date. I see the logic behind it, and I agree with that logic but I have the soul of a storyteller and I don't want to have my big finish in the second act. Yes, a kiss at the end of the date is trite, but it can still be an awesome and memorable way to end a first date. Especially if you do it confidently and unapologetically (which very few of us do). Again, I do think it's good advice, but here's how I would tweak it for my own personal style. I would still structure a time in the middle of a date for a kiss, but then I would NOT take the kiss. Or I would just lean in for a soft, quick kiss on the lips and not take it further. When you're with a girl and you both know that you could push things along physically and you choose not to, that can drive them crazy. And if you do that you can make the whole second half of the date very fraught with romantic tension. She will be wondering why you didn't take it further. She will be wondering if you like her physically. She will definitely be wondering if you're going to try to kiss her at the end of the date. This tension will build and by the end of the night when you do slowly and confidently go in for a real kiss, it can be explosive. Again, this is just my personal style, and it's not what I would do with a girl if I was looking to get laid that night. But if I'm looking to make an impression and drive her a little wild for me, that's the route I'd take and it may work for others here too. Thanks again for all the great advice you're giving here. I think these rules are spot-on (all of them, I mean, not just 7-9). I see this as the “real work” of pick-up. You’re teaching people to drive whereas other gurus are just getting them to put fuzzy dice on their rearview mirror. I’m not sure my full point came across in that metaphor, but you get the jist of it.

My one quibble would be with structuring a kiss in the middle of the date. I see the logic behind it, and I agree with that logic but I have the soul of a storyteller and I don’t want to have my big finish in the second act. Yes, a kiss at the end of the date is trite, but it can still be an awesome and memorable way to end a first date. Especially if you do it confidently and unapologetically (which very few of us do).

Again, I do think it’s good advice, but here’s how I would tweak it for my own personal style. I would still structure a time in the middle of a date for a kiss, but then I would NOT take the kiss. Or I would just lean in for a soft, quick kiss on the lips and not take it further. When you’re with a girl and you both know that you could push things along physically and you choose not to, that can drive them crazy. And if you do that you can make the whole second half of the date very fraught with romantic tension. She will be wondering why you didn’t take it further. She will be wondering if you like her physically. She will definitely be wondering if you’re going to try to kiss her at the end of the date. This tension will build and by the end of the night when you do slowly and confidently go in for a real kiss, it can be explosive.

Again, this is just my personal style, and it’s not what I would do with a girl if I was looking to get laid that night. But if I’m looking to make an impression and drive her a little wild for me, that’s the route I’d take and it may work for others here too.

Thanks again for all the great advice you’re giving here.

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