First Impressions: What She Notices When She Meets You

I was recently out with some female friends of mine here in New York City. We were mostly talking about dating and socializing (for some reason, conversations seem to end up on that topic when I am around). One of my closer friends, let’s call her Amy, was talking about a guy she recently met at a party. Seems innocent enough, right? Well, what she disclosed to me in the next three minutes was like getting more than just a peek behind the veil. I was astonished at what she told me.

Before I delve into what her mental processes were, let me remind you – with women, you NEVER get a chance at a first impression. I find that men tend to reserve judgment for a few moments before arriving at an opinion of a person.

Women, however, tend to form this is a matter of SECONDS. So, if you don’t have your look, vibe & life HANDLED, you are destined for the bottom feeding extravaganza known as sarging, and spending time with GUYS who like to talk about (but never actually DATE) attractive and interesting women.

Women have developed a system of sensitivity over the years that we can NOT relate to. They have a “Creep Meter” (now known forever as the CM) that is designed to protect them from predatory, disingenuous posers who masquerade as having their shit together when in reality they are arrogantly assuming that it is OK to play in the “land of make believe”. And, just so we all know, what is small subset of these ne’er-do-wells?

- PUAs (aka, pick-up artists)
- Players
- Serial daters
- Nicely dressed dudes, pockets filled with “things to say” only seeking sexual fulfillment (aka, pick-up artists)

Hopefully this will be a bit repetitive to you who consistently read this blog, but the above subset only attracts its reciprocal – meaning, dimly lit hotties or player girls…which is why they are all chronically single, and mostly spend time with members of their OWN sex. Pretenders attract pretenders…the CM is much too high for women with a reasonably high IQ.

So, back to my story…what I did was ask her to put her thoughts into WORDS (in an email) so I could directly reproduce it here with no editorializing on my part. Here is the precise mental process of Amy:

First, I noticed his body language – it was like he was subtly leading with his dick. The guy had his head slightly tilted back, like an arrogant snob or something. I felt like he was looking down on me. I then quickly read his tone, it was tense – like he had something to hide. It was too high-pitched for his “too big” posture. I never trust a guy with tense vocal chords, I don’t really know why either. Then, I noticed he was wearing a necklace, and when I asked him about it he had NO idea that the icon in it was in fact an Asian fertility symbol – what a poser! His shirt collar had ring around the collar – how tacky is that! Next, his belt buckle was WAY over the top – classic try hard. I hate it when guys overcompensate for their lack of personality with flash and glitz. He had a slight unibrow, which is often not a huge issue for me, but combined with everything else, made it yet another piece of evidence. His fingernails were all dirty – which is completely inexcusable – and his shoes did not match his clothing. You know, all of this may seem small, and petty. But, I gotta say, all of these small things were completely congruent with his VIBE – there was something about him which was like a real estate salesman who wouldn’t take you into the basement cause he knew it was flooded. I can’t put my finger on it, but he was just CREEPY.

Amy.

Flabbergasting. I mean, what’s a guy to do with all of this analysis going on?? Is there any hope for us? At first, I thought that Amy might be the problem. But all of the other women at the table completely AGREED.

What I later learned was that many of these small things are not a big deal if the VIBE seems cool and trustworthy. A woman is willing to overlook a zit, or a dirty fingernail, if the overall picture is together.

So, how do you know if the overall picture is together? My advice – LOOK AROUND YOU. Are there women in your world? Do you have female friends in your life? If not, you might be setting off CM’s when you meet women.

Women WANT to meet and date cool guys who have REAL lives. If you are not dating interesting, attractive women – you are probably creeping them out.

You can dress this up as much as you want, you can learn all the gimmicks you can get your hands on, you can even model the VERY BEST in the world…and still be single, horny, desperate…and alone.

Hell, at the end of Project Hollywood, we, the so-called BEST, were ALL single. What a joke right! There were guys there teaching men how to pick-up girls who hadn’t been kissed in MONTHS.

The message here is – GET A LIFE…and get a REAL one. That is the ONLY way to meet women. And, as you get that life, LEARN social skills the hard way – by practicing. Guys who set off the CM’s of the world are unsocialized, and are unwilling to practice in order to normalize their behavior around women.

So, are you willing?

On Thursday, the ONLY ebook you will ever need is going to be re-released (in its newly minted 3rd edition format – it looks AWESOME). In it I cover the ENTIRE list of things you need to handle in order to meet not only MORE women, but the ever-elusive, RIGHT woman for you…

Stay tuned.

SN.

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