Is She Ready To Be Kissed?

I was working with a client over Memorial Day weekend, and he had a common issue that I wanted to address this morning.

Here was his question, and do you relate?

How Can I Tell if She is Ready To Be Kissed?

Each of you has had this question flash through your brains at least ten times in your life. It usually happens when you’re on that first date, it’s gone well, and there is a mutual attraction. Maybe a couple of hours into the evening, there is a pause….

Is she ready now?

In my experience, this usually means she IS. At that moment, there is something chemical that sparks between you. It is probable that she feels it too, and that the window is open. But, it can close…

The average guy usually hesitates, questions, analyzes, mentates and overall doubts the validity of the fact that she is READY. This is merely an example of instincts in collision.

On the one hand, we have desire….wanting to kiss her.

And on the other, we have fear….but what if she rejects me?

There you have it – man’s war with himself in a nutshell. He likes her, and desires her yet fears the ego-smashing that could accompany a rejection. Thus, we hesitate.

A third factor here which is the most important one, and which is usually (if not always) overlooked is INSTINCT.

Us guys have to learn to trust our instincts. Here’s my hypothesis:

The idea of “is she ready to be kissed?” would never flash through your brain if she wasn’t already subtly signaling to you that she IS!!

So, the challenge is to trust yourself enough and go for it.

Truth be told, women are attracted to guys who have this attitude. Hesitation, doubt and insecurity are NOT attractive.

Also, if she is not ready, and you have misread the situation, so what?? So, you lean in and go for the kiss and she leans away…big deal!

If you can roll with it by laughing it off, she will gain attraction for you – that’s right, by being bold, your value increases in her eyes! So, the next time you go to kiss her, do it with confidence, and chances are, she’ll be ready this time.

And, if she isn’t, you may be learning that she gives off mixed signals, or that the two of you may not have any chemistry – good things to know don’t you think?

Plus, if a few of these moments pass without any moves by you, she will begin to wonder if you are really into her, and she might become less attracted to you because you are so indecisive and safe. This is how the window can close, and why it is important to go for it.

So, the “rule” I want to establish with each of you is this:

If you wonder if she is ready to be kissed, find out for real, and go for it. Look her in the eye, a bit longer than usual, and move to kiss her. I bet you’ll be nicely surprised when she reciprocates, and if she doesn’t…you just learned something valuable about her, while enjoying the thrill of being alive and taking a confident risk.

You have nothing to lose.

Welcome to summer…

SN.

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